learn to let go.
freedom from obsessive romantic jealousy.
online across connecticut
Quiet the over-thinking
stop the reassurance-seeking
live your life again
have you lost yourself in another person?
Q: Are you constantly distracted by worrisome, jealous thoughts?
Q: Do you only feel OK when your partner promises you everything is OK?
Q: Do you feel a wave of relief when you ask your partner leading questions and they tell you what you want to hear?
(Only to find your insecure jealousy rearing its ugly head again the next day over something else? So you ask more questions?)
You feel weak because your ability to get through every day depends on your partner’s words & actions.
Q: Have you lost focus on your goals? Your dreams? Your hobbies? Other things that give you joy? Time with special people in your life? Family? Friends? (You know they always had your back.)
you’re asking yourself: what is happening to me?
Maybe your partner feels the same way. Maybe you’re both really good people, but you’re also just feeling really insecure for some reason. You “get” each other so you have RULES you’ve agreed on to prevent the pain of jealousy, but it’s confused people outside the relationship (and sometimes even hurt them)—leading you both into isolation. Together. But alone. Not really yourselves anymore.
You’re tired of revolving your entire life around this toxic issue.
YOU JUST WANT TO BE YOUR OWN PERSON AGAIN.
Q: Isn’t being controlling, and feeling controlled, exhausting?
A: Yes, it is.
I know firsthand. I’ve been there. As a teen and as an adult.
I know how incredibly consuming the prison of jealousy is.
you may be EXPERIENCING:
Feeling Threatened by Potential Rivals
Compulsively Checking, Monitoring or Searching for Evidence
Obsessively Questioning Your Partner
Constantly Seeking Reassurance
Experiencing Intrusive Thoughts That Won’t Leave You Alone
Feeling Consumed by Your Relationship
Some people find themselves focused on perceived threats in the present, such as a partner’s coworkers, friends, acquaintances, or anyone else who feels like a potential rival. Others experience these struggles in the form of retroactive jealousy: becoming preoccupied with a partner's past relationships, experiences, or sexual history. Many people experience both.
You may be:
Constantly Accused, Doubted, or Mistrusted
Constantly Pressured to Explain, Justify, or Prove Yourself
Constantly Reassuring Your Partner
Walking on Eggshells to Avoid Conflict
Avoiding Friendships, Activities, or Conversations to Keep the Peace
Whether you are feeling controlled by obsessive jealousy yourself, or trapped by a partner’s insecurity, the result is often the same: anxiety, conflict, and a growing sense that your relationship is controlling your life rather than enriching it.
You don’t have to keep living this way.
i want you to know there is a way out of this cycle.
you will be heard, understood, and helped.
You will be safe to share with me your pain, confusion, self-doubt, hopes, and fears.
Together, we'll work to understand the thoughts and emotions that keep the cycle of obsessive romantic jealousy alive—and develop new ways of responding.
You'll learn practical skills that will help you quiet overthinking, reduce reassurance-seeking, set and hold boundaries, and give you a sense of freedom in your daily life.
AND YOU WILL SEE—THE WORK IS WORTH IT.
